First, let's take a look at chivalry's origins. The code of conduct that we call chivalry today involved much more than just opening doors for ladies.
Chivalry first developed in Western Europe as a code of honor that emphasized bravery, loyalty, and generosity for Christian knights at war in the 11th and 12th centuries.
The code was very much based in medieval literature, and illuminated manuscripts in particular helped establish chivalry as a system of values that permeated almost every aspect of aristocratic culture.
It included the treatment of women, but it wasn't limited to relations with the fairer sex the way we might think of chivalry today.
The chivalric code also had a darker side. For one, it helped to keep knights—essentially heavily-armed warriors prone to violence—in check.
And as for the treatment of women, at best chivalry cast them as desperately helpless and in need of constant protection. It also held them to a Biblical standard of virtuous and pious behavior.
So, next time you see an act of chivalry in the movies, remember that it’s based more on the Fantasy of the Middle Ages than actual history.
Plus, it’s been about 1,000 years, maybe it’s time for a new standard?
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